You're The Worse Mom

Indeed, your baby is the extension of you. Whatever she's doing reflects good or bad on you. No one really factors in that even at the age of 2, these cute lil angels have a mind of their own. If they did something great, well plus point on you. If they cry like there's no tomorrow, well, you're up for an award for the worse mom. Here are the usual things that Moms go through at this phase.

1. She only likes your side of the family. You must be doing something wrong.
Can't 2 year olds have preference for family relationship? Well, as young as they are, you'd be surprise that they do have strong attachment to certain sides of the family. Does that reflect bad on you? Well, you'll be thought of many things. Things like you have too much attachment; you've babied your daughter far too much! You spoiled her too much. Misconceptions, misconceptions, misconceptions. Nobody sees that sometimes it breaks your hear to spank your child because she's acting up. Nobody sees that patience you have to exercise because she's in that terrible two stage. In the eyes of those who don't know, if they can't have what they want immediately, you must be doing something wrong.

2. She's still breasfeeding at 2???? You're doing it all wrong
Yeah, I admit, weaning out can be so convenient. But letting her have formula is not always the solution to make her go with people or relatives she doesn't see often. And if when she doesn't go easily with people, then your baby is labeled with being bratty or annoying. As parents, we shouldn't be the first one to judge our toddlers. My GOD!! she's just 2. We're the adult; let's not crucify the kid for siding on one side of the family. I believe there should always a gameplan involved. But that will only work if all parents are involve. Always try your best not to let your frustration gets the best of you. There are days, I admit, that I get frustrated and want to spank my kid. But I learned that it's not always the best and she'd only cry more.

3. She's not like her dad who's patient. There must be something wrong.
To be frank, I don't want my kid to be exactly like her dad or even me. I want her to be the best version of either of us. Who cares if my daughter doesn't get her dads complacency when he was a kid?? Does that mean she'll fail as an adult? Sometimes it should be adults who have their attitude in check before crucifying 2years for the simple reason of favoring one side of the family.

Things You're Not Entitled To

1) Your lucky you have a kid, so don't complain about it.      The moment you welcome your little bundle of joy, your life changes completely. So what's new? Everyone knows that. But what you will learn on your own is the amount of patience you can try muster in when your 2 year old starts wailing in a high pitched voice that can reach the houses on the other street. I'm always tempted to slap the hell out of my toddler when she's in this wailing state; but then, reason gets the better of me and I just pray I don't give in to my weakness. Reward? When I struggle during moments like this, I always think, my child is an extension of me. When she looks into my eyes, she knows, only mommy can understand her.

2) Your husband's job is to provide and not take care of the kids.  I have this bad habit of thinking that because my husband provides me with everything that I don't need to bother him with the dirty job of taking care of our daughter after office hours. But the thing is, I work too and at the same time I take care of our kid. So when do I get some alone time like my husband? Sometimes I resent the fact that my husband can make plans with his friends, knowing that he doesn't have to worry because I'm at home making sure everything is fine. I hate those moments. It makes me feel alone and without life. Reward? I make him buy me stuff to compensate those moments. Hey, moms should have leverage sometimes, right?

3) You have a perfect family, a single girls night out is not for you anymore.    The people in the office loves to go out for drinks. When I see them in Facebook, I tell myself, that's the night life I use to have. Nowadays, my preliminaries to a night out consists of syncing my husband's free schedule so that I could go out with my girls and have someone take care of the baby. It sucks sometimes but what can you do, you're the squad leader and as a squad leader you have to take care of your platoon first before focusing on yourself. Reward? You have a husband that voluntarily adjusts his schedule and suggests a time for you to have some fun.

4) Your child is a blessing, so always appreciate your moments with her.    Yes of course I feel that way, except for the moments when she wants to stick by you all the time and you have a client call in a few minutes. Except for the moments when she wails to a level of god knows what and she just won't shut up. Except for those times when you want a moments peace and your husband can't shut her up and it's up to you to calm her. When you're typing a blog and she pulls every cord she sees and starts to wail. Reward? When she's calm and starts to sleep, she turns her head and look at you with such look of peace and knows she feels okay or those moments when she gently touches your hair and says "mommy?" with enthusiasm.

For people reading this, you must think I'm one ungrateful mom. Well, it's okay. There are times I feel like that too. But most days, I'm sane and appreciate the blessings I have and that includes a loving husband and a lovely little girl. Sometimes, when it gets too crazy I just want to vent in a healthy and productive way and that includes writing. To all moms out there..kudos to you all.


(Picture below is how my baby prefers to breastfeed. She's a rowdy one).